My Honest Thoughts on Pacifiers (from a Lactation Consultant + Mom)
Let’s talk pacifiers, because this is something that comes up all the time in my consults and classes. Some people expect me to say they’re terrible, or that you have to wait exactly two weeks or a month before using one. But here’s the truth: I don’t hate pacifiers.
I actually think they can be a helpful tool when used with intention.
Do You Need to Wait to Introduce a Pacifier?
No, you really don’t. There isn’t a specific timeline that works for every family. Some babies take to them right away, and others couldn’t care less. And if your baby never likes one, that’s okay. It’s one less thing you’ll have to worry about taking away later on.
If you decide to use a pacifier, just be thoughtful about how and when you use it.
When Pacifiers Can Be Helpful
There are times when a pacifier can really come in handy. Maybe your baby just finished nursing, is full and content, and wants to suckle to fall asleep. Or maybe you need to get up for a few minutes, and your baby is half-asleep but still wants to comfort suck. That’s a good time to reach for a pacifier.
It can also help calm a baby who gets startled by a loud noise or needs a quick moment of soothing. In those moments, a pacifier can be a great tool for both of you.
What we want to avoid is using a pacifier to replace or delay a feeding. If your baby is showing hunger cues, feed them. It doesn’t matter if it’s “too soon.” Every feeding helps regulate your supply and keeps your baby happy and fed.
About “Nipple Confusion”
Let’s clear this up once and for all. Nipple confusion isn’t really a thing. Babies are capable of learning more than one skill. But if your baby is still working on their latch or breastfeeding feels difficult, it’s best to wait until things are going more smoothly before adding a pacifier.
That doesn’t mean your baby will start preferring the pacifier over you. It just means we don’t want to complicate things while they’re still learning. Once your baby is feeding well, they can absolutely do both.
The Bottom Line
Pacifiers aren’t bad, and they aren’t required either. They’re simply an option. If it helps your baby and makes your days a little bit easier, that’s okay. If it doesn’t feel right for your family, skip it.
Use it as a tool, not a crutch, and try not to overthink it.
At the end of the day, what matters most is that you and your baby are both doing well.
If you’re pregnant and want to feel prepared before your baby arrives, our Breastfeeding Class is a great place to start.
If your baby is already here and you’re running into feeding challenges, you can book a lactation consultation for one-on-one support.
Either way, you don’t have to figure it all out alone. I’d love to help you feel confident and calm as you feed your baby.
